Domestic violence can happen
to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender.
It can happen to couples who
are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects
people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Abuse is a repetitive pattern
of behaviors to maintain power and control over an intimate partner. These are
behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what
they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want.
Abuse includes the use of
physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and
Many of these different forms
of abuse can be going on at any one time.
The Power & Control Wheel
that was developed by Domestic
Abuse Program in Duluth, Minneapolis describes most accurately what
occurs in an abusive relationship.
Think of the wheel as a
diagram of the tactics your abusive partner uses to keep you in the
While the inside of the wheel
is comprised of subtle, continual behaviors, the outer ring represents
physical, visible violence. These are the abusive acts that are more overt and
forceful, and often the intense acts that reinforce the regular use of other
subtler methods of abuse.
The above text is taken from
the website http://www.thehotline.org/help/
@Copyright - The National
Domestic Violence Hotline
Child witness Syndrome
swearing, insults, threats, name-calling, put-downs
Aims at the isolation of the victim. The perpetrator forbids the victim
to have any contact with relatives, friends, neighbours or even to work.
economic dependence of the victim from the abuser.
(Rejection, insecurity, lack
of respect, Απόρριψη, ανασφάλεια, έλλειψη αλληλοσεβασμού, debasement, neglect, terror,
It refers to the violent
behavior among family members that results in the violation of the person''s
physical integrity that may range from minor to major injuries, or even result
in the death of the victim (bruises, blows, scratches, burns, shaking, pinches,
Forcing the victim to sexual
acts with the use of violence, without the conscious consent of the victim
(Intercourse, incest, unwanted touch, exposure to pornography, genital
Neglect mainly concerns
children, the elderly or other persons who are unable for various reasons to
take care of themselves, for example, people with chronic serious health
problems, disabilities etc.
The term "neglect"
describes the phenomenon whereby one or more adults who are responsible for a
person''s care, let the person undergo physical injuries or deprivation to such
an extent that may lead to serious physical, mental, or emotional or social
disorders or even death.
It is noted that people with
caring relationship can except the parents, be other relatives as well as the
institutions staff, teachers, child careers and others.
Child witness Syndrome
When the child is exposed for
a long time in various forms of domestic violence as a witness, without the
child being physically abused. Violence between spouses is the most
characteristic form, while other forms are abuse- physical and / or sexual
-other brother in the family or violence against the grandfather or
grandmother. Verbal violence (insults, threats) is one of the most
characteristic forms of the syndrome of this syndrome.
During the tension building
the perpetrator may swear and insult the victim in an effort to make the victim
react. If the victim react, the perpetrator finds occasion to exert
violence. Many times the victim fears the reaction of the perpetrator and thus
behaves as if she is at fault. Eventually, the perpetrator will always
find an excuse to exercise violence to the victim.
During this phase the
perpetrator is usually out of control. Many times the victim is seriously
injured. Sometimes the victim remains passive in an effort to protect herself.
Sometimes the victim simply defends herself. In some cases, the victim can hit
the abuser, or run off and seek help.
After the abuse the victim is
very vulnerable. The perpetrator attempts to justify his violent behavior,
showering the victim with love and apologies. The abuser promises that he will
not do it again.
During the Reconciliation
phase, a very strong emotional bond between the victim and the perpetrator is
created, which isolates both from reality.
With time, the length of the
three phases changes. The Tension Building phase lasts less and less, the
Violent Incidence phase becomes more frequent and intense and the Making-up
phase shrinks and becomes more intense. Violence weakens the victim and changes
her character and personality.
Why does the victim stay?
There are many reasons why she
does not leave, even if she feels that she is in danger:
does not perceive herself as a victim.
does not know her rights.
§ She is
afraid that he will take revenge against her or at the expense of the
and social beliefs.
does not work, and she cannot look for job easily since the perpetrator forbids it
forbids her from having contact even with her family.
§ She is
afraid that she will not find support from family and friends.
§ She is
afraid to report the abuse because she is afraid of the consequences that may
regarding her partner''s employment status.
§ Fear /
of the children and that the family will be ''dissolved''.
she is weak.